WHAT DO YOU SAY?
This morning started like any other, parents and kids rushing around getting ready for our various things we had to do today when I stopped and looked at my middle son and had this conversation...
"Ezra did you ever apologize to that girl you kicked at school the other day?"
'Umm I think so.' Ez
"Not good enough, did you or did you not apologize?"
'I don't think so.' Ez
"Well then that is your job today at school, I want you to find that girl at school and apologize for kicking her"
'No mom I don't' want to, it wasn't my fault and I am not the only one'. Ez
" It doesn't matter whose fault it is, you have to take responsibility for your actions and apologize"
Insert wailing and gnashing of teeth from middle son Ezra.
Meanwhile I am standing my ground and not backing down, letting him know that Noah(oldest son) will find him at first recess and walk with him to find the girl and apologize and if he doesn't do that Noah will call me and I will call the principle and get her involved.
Insert MORE wailing and gnashing of teeth.
Then he stops and turns to me and says emphatically
'WHY DO YOU HAVE TO TAKE YOUR JOB SO SERIOUSLY?'
This caught a bit off guard and this is what I told him...
" Because I am not raising kids, I am raising adults and if you have such a difficult time humbling yourself to apologize to a girl that you hurt at school imagine what a rough time you will have apologizing to your wife someday when you hurt her, the only thing in the way is your pride."
So I dropped him off at school needless to say he was very angry with me and slammed the door and walked away....so today I am praying for my boy that he can swallow his pride and humbly walk to this girl and apologize.
As a mother I always hope I am doing the right thing and doing my best to raise my kids to be loving adults goodness knows it isn't easy but I really hope all this pays off......
****update Ezra came home from school and let me know that the girl wasn't there today but stated that he WOULD go and apologize to her tomorrow if she is there.....I guess with a little time to think it wasn't so bad afterall, now hopefully he remembers tomorrow..you can bet I'll remind him ;) thanks for all your words of encouragement!!
*********Update, Ezra did in fact apologize and shared that it felt really good to do that and that next time it won't be so hard!!! (AMEN my mother's heart smiles)