Thursday, September 11, 2008
SELF-HELP or SELF-HURT??!?!
I love to read and most of the time it is some sort of murder mystery, espionage or chicky-like book that I am reading. I also have a steady stream of 'self-help' books that I read, I read these to improve my marriage, my life in general and of course my parenting.
Well it seems lately it has been more of a 'self-hurt' book that I am reading than a help so far, last night as I was reading this bookI kept on exhaling loudly and Conrad finally says 'Louise relax, you are fine.' I turn over and I say' I don't know that I am, according to this book I am not doing enough to teach our kids.' ...well this continued into a long conversation between us on what we are responsible for as parents and that eventually our kids have to put effort into it as well. But I can't help to think that if I was doing more, the kids would 'turn' out for sure. I guess there is only so much 'doing' that I can do, I know that I am not meant to do this on my own strength even though I try all the time. I think it is every parents desire that their children turn out to be well balanced, productive adults who love and respect others and this is something that we are responsible to teach....I know that I am only human and that I can't possibly teach my kids all that there is to know about life and that is where trust comes in, trusting that what I have forgotten or missed the Lord will bring someone into their life to teach them.
This parenting thing can be overwhelming and even though I feel like hurling that book across the room at times I will continue reading it because I know that there are things in there that I can definitely learn so for now it may be causing me some hurt I will wait it out till it becomes a help in my life and that of my kids!!
That all being said it IS a great book and a great read for those raising kids!!!